Never forget: to be who you are. You don’t have to pretend for these people. Working for their approval will be never-ending and futile.
Never forget: You can be soft and strong. A romantic and a realist. You can be generous within limits. Love within boundaries. Be both powerful and vulnerable. Afraid and yet courageous. Never be a slave to anyone’s dichotomies. 
Never forget: you are the imago Dei. Live like it. 
Never forget: love always overpowers hate.